I read so many ADD forum posts, Reddit posts, found that some people do withdraw when they are stressed out and shut people out. Ok. It’s not about me, leave him alone and just maintain those kind thoughts in my head….. except this quarantine situation is not helping! My mind kept repeating those instances that I misjudged like when he said “let’s go do this” or “let’s go here” – no follow through. His lack of eye contact especially in the beginning. Those times that he said he’d call but never did, and the next day oblivious to the fact that I waited for it. Mood swings. Random inappropriate things that he blurt out.. etc I took all of those things personally, and equated that to how of little value I am to him. I couldn’t help myself so I sent him an email a few days ago basically saying that I’ve been reading about ADD, wish I had done that as soon as he mentioned it so I was able to understand and communicate with him better, that I didn’t make wrong assumptions and take things personally, and apologizing if I projected my anxiety on him. I also realized that I hinted at a few things with him which he didn’t pick up. Both on text, on the phone and in person which he didn’t pick up. I don’t know if that’s ADD related. He casually mentioned early on that he took Adderall in the past for ADD, and I didn’t bother understanding what that meant. I ended the email saying I hope he’s taking care of himself, hoping he’s able to decompress and have more time for family matters.
I didn’t get any response, which I expected….kind of. I mean, there’s a pandemic going on. I called that same day and found out I’m not blocked anymore. Now I don’t know if that’s even appropriate for me to bring ADD up. Is it offensive/intrusive for me to talk about it like that?