I’m (35M) a first-time parent of a 3-month-old boy. At the moment, I’m temporarily a stay-at-home dad because I’m on paternity leave. To say the least, I’m learning the hard way that having ADHD (inattentive type) while taking care of an infant can be quite difficult.
More than anything, I struggle with keeping my little guy entertained. He’s in that phase right now where he’s old enough to get bored but not yet old enough to be able to entertain himself. When he’s not napping and I’m not feeding him, I struggle terribly to keep him entertained, mostly because I get bored nearly to tears.
There’s only so many times I can make goofy sounds at him and sing One Two Buckle My Shoe before I begin to get fidgety. I’m the kind of guy who likes doing things. Before my son was born, when not working I would spend my time doing projects around the house, woodworking, doing yard work, etc. But with my son, I feel locked down.
To make everything worse, I’m a creature of habit and I usually live by a schedule. But my son isn’t that way. Every time I find a good way to entertain him, he’ll be bored with it the next day and I have to start over. It feels like I’m trying to entertain a StairMaster.
I love my son more than anything in the world, and I feel like I’m starting fatherhood off on the wrong foot. I’d love to read any suggestions on how I can better deal with this. Thank you!